this isn’t bad, but I think you need to kind of… stop focusing on yourself? I don’t know a tactful way to put that
like: you’re seeing this through kind of a privileged lens. Millions of mothers stay home with their kids right now, not because it’s their dream, but because they literally have no choice. Childcare isn’t subsidized, and a lot of them can’t access jobs that pay enough to cover the cost of childcare (which is super expensive). People stay at home with their kids because they can’t afford to keep having a job, which makes already vulnerable [near poverty] families more vulnerable (being reliant on a single paycheck which will make things extra difficult if that individual gets laid off etc)
Feminism isn’t about patting you on the back for having a dream. It’s about lifting them up so that they have a choice as to whether they stay home or not. Conservatives (ok, a lot of people TBH) are constantly trying to make you forget that there are women — families — who struggle with this stuff day in and day out, so they paint it instead as a struggle for the upper-middle class woman who just wants to stay home and goddamn those feminists standing in her way ! But it was never about her.
My mom stayed home once I was like, 10ish, because my family can afford it. Not a ton of families can honestly afford that and still pay for everything else in life on one salary. If you can be like my mom, you’ll be one lucky duckling. This isn’t about her though, and it’s damn shady to pretend that feminism is genuinely concerned with telling my mom (and other moms like her) she’s not good enough because that really isn’t true.
Also just as an aside, I come from a pretty housewife… friendly… family. And for a lot of them, it’s “the dream.” Divorce comes sooner or later for some couples, though, and it’s shitty, but it’s even more shitty to try and watch aunts try and carve up a new career for themselves when they’re in their 50s.
Live the life and be a housewife if it works out for you, but have a back up just in case. I hope everything goes well for you but even if, say, your husband dies earlier than you expected, you’ll want to be able to provide for your kids (or if we’re really in dreamland I guess you have a huge life insurance policy? All I’m saying is, hope for the best but plan for the worst)