Sorry, so sorry I left some of these off for so long (and will keep doing so since I am not often on Tumblr, but).
Let us see… for this one, I am feeling the movieeeee… Aladdin (sorry if I used this one before, I don’t think I did? But I can’t remember).
I could be wrong, since your explanation was pretty brief and I have to fill in the blanks here, but when I think of your issue and worries, I definitely think of Aladdin and his struggle with confidence, feeling deserving of love, and believing that Jasmine could be attracted to him for who he was, inside and out (not sure how you identify, but her being a woman is not important for this point). He worried about all this for most of the movie and went to great lengths to try and fix it — albeit the wrong way.
Although there’s probably no real “right” and “wrong” as you grow into yourself — it’s all a learning process — I would say it overall takes a lot longer if you go the route of trying to reach these things externally. Not to be the most generic advice ever, but it’s really very hard to believe other people can love you if you doubt your own inherent value.
Aladdin connects with Jasmine, and Jasmine likes him, not because of the Genie’s help or his prince-act or any of that, but right in the beginning, when he acts genuinely without really second guessing himself.
I would say that in the movie, Aladdin gained his confidence and believed his value not by accumulating wealth or by acting like a prince, but by making choices. Often, hard choices. But choices made him realize what type of person he was, and that he did deserve love (for who he was). I think that a lot of the confidence you are looking for might come from making these types of choices - who to give your time to, who deserves your time, who is worthy of your love/meant for it. Not everyone is, and that’s an important thing to remember, especially when you feel like you are breaking.
Genie: All right, sparky, here’s the deal. If you wanna court the little lady, you gotta be a straight shooter. Do you got it?
Genie: [pointing to each word on a blackboard] Tell her the truth!
As far as believing when other people recognize your inner/outer beauty, I think it comes down to just recognizing truth, and believing it, and not second guessing it based on what everyone tells you (or what your doubting nature inside, tells you). If someone sees the value in you, why second-guess that? Life is too short.
Sorry if this advice is boring for most people but hopefully, helpful for a few :p and please no more Disney advice requests, at least until I get around to old ones 100%.