Feminist Disney
how can i feel more confident and deserving of love? and actually believe that a man is attracted to me (inside and out) without worrying about it?

Sorry, so sorry I left some of these off for so long (and will keep doing so since I am not often on Tumblr, but). 

Let us see… for this one, I am feeling the movieeeee… Aladdin (sorry if I used this one before, I don’t think I did? But I can’t remember).

I could be wrong, since your explanation was pretty brief and I have to fill in the blanks here, but when I think of your issue and worries, I definitely think of Aladdin and his struggle with confidence, feeling deserving of love, and believing that Jasmine could be attracted to him for who he was, inside and out (not sure how you identify, but her being a woman is not important for this point). He worried about all this for most of the movie and went to great lengths to try and fix it — albeit the wrong way.

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Although there’s probably no real “right” and “wrong” as you grow into yourself — it’s all a learning process — I would say it overall takes a lot longer if you go the route of trying to reach these things externally. Not to be the most generic advice ever, but it’s really very hard to believe other people can love you if you doubt your own inherent value. 

Aladdin connects with Jasmine, and Jasmine likes him, not because of the Genie’s help or his prince-act or any of that, but right in the beginning, when he acts genuinely without really second guessing himself.

I would say that in the movie, Aladdin gained his confidence and believed his value not by accumulating wealth or by acting like a prince, but by making choices. Often, hard choices. But choices made him realize what type of person he was, and that he did deserve love (for who he was). I think that a lot of the confidence you are looking for might come from making these types of choices - who to give your time to, who deserves your time, who is worthy of your love/meant for it. Not everyone is, and that’s an important thing to remember, especially when you feel like you are breaking.

Genie: All right, sparky, here’s the deal. If you wanna court the little lady, you gotta be a straight shooter. Do you got it?

Aladdin: What?

Genie: [pointing to each word on a blackboard] Tell her the truth!

As far as believing when other people recognize your inner/outer beauty, I think it comes down to just recognizing truth, and believing it, and not second guessing it based on what everyone tells you (or what your doubting nature inside, tells you). If someone sees the value in you, why second-guess that? Life is too short.

Sorry if this advice is boring for most people but hopefully, helpful for a few :p and please no more Disney advice requests, at least until I get around to old ones 100%.

justfrigginkita:

Meet Halena, a 6 year old girl from New Hampshire. This sweet little girl has cancer for the second time in her young life. They recently had to shave her head due to her hair falling out from chemo. We all know times are tough and medical bills are expensive so they set up a gofundme (http://www.gofundme.com/feg7xg) & are asking for any donations to help with medical bills and buying a wig for this cutie. Her favorite movie is frozen so of course she wants a wig to look like Elsa. Even if you can’t donate, please help spread the word. Positive vibes are just as awesome. Thanks for reading!

justfrigginkita:

Meet Halena, a 6 year old girl from New Hampshire. This sweet little girl has cancer for the second time in her young life. They recently had to shave her head due to her hair falling out from chemo. We all know times are tough and medical bills are expensive so they set up a gofundme (http://www.gofundme.com/feg7xg) & are asking for any donations to help with medical bills and buying a wig for this cutie. Her favorite movie is frozen so of course she wants a wig to look like Elsa. Even if you can’t donate, please help spread the word. Positive vibes are just as awesome. Thanks for reading!

So, I rewatched Peter Pan and, well, I enjoyed most of it. It's animation is dynamic and lively, not to mention the slapstick was quite good. Watching the more infamous sequence(s) actually made me cry. There is an attempt at changing those scenes, mostly because Disney is a bit irresponsible, and it's called the Tiger Lily Project. The question is whether or not to go through with it.

Oops sorry I think I got a message about this before and it got buried. I tried to find a website or something for this “Tiger Lily Project” but couldn’t find what you’re talking about - is there a link?

I’m not sure I understand - is the project an attempt to convince Disney to re-animate those scenes and re-release the movie? 

I guess my thoughts on that, assuming it is that, are along the lines of “good luck, even though I don’t think it will ever happen.” I guess I could maybe see it happening if they planned on re-releasing Peter Pan or something…? But on its own… I’m not sure I see it happening. Especially because it would then, reasonably, create the question of, “Why not re-animate the scenes in X, Y, Z movie as well?” 

IDK like I definitely feel you on the point behind it (if it’s that) but I would wonder whether time would be better spent pushing for better future media, rather than trying to re-write what’s already been in circulation for decades now. 

I don't really follow any other sj blogs so I thought I'd ask you. How do I get my friend to stop calling girls who wear revealing clothing "sluts" and saying she has no respect for them? Is there a good way I can explain it that might change her outlook?

ahhh I never know how to answer these questions because I don’t truly believe there is any all encompassing/quick answer like… it all kind of depends on your friend too and I’ve never met them

Rather than trying to solve one issue with one conversation I would try and make that the focus of many conversations, like… just start talking about double standards with clothing expectations and the problematic “virgin”/”whore” dichotomy and whether slut-shaming helps anyone

maybe I’m just being lazy in answering this?? I mean my basic approach would just be to keep asking questions anytime they say a statement.

"I don’t have to respect them because they’re sluts"

"why?"

Like what, really, is the answer behind that? (I don’t honestly know her answer so, again, kind of hard for me to advise on a reply… could be a lot of different things) Just keep asking “but why.” Listen to what she has to say, and use her own words as a way to get to the root of the misconception

Hello! I know this is sort of aside from what your blog is about, but I trust your opinion, so I wanted to ask. How do you feel about color runs? Are the runs a form of cultural appropriation? The way I see it, the runs take a "cool" aspect of the Holi Festival and use it without any thought about its cultural and religious significance. Am I off-base? Some of my friends think I'm just "sensitive", but I don't want to participate in an event that propagates cultural/religious appropriation.

if anyone wants to reblog this with an answer, feel free, I honestly don’t have any idea what a “color run” is and it’s probably not people dragging boxes of crayons behind them as I imagine

ok but Holes does challenge a lot with its modern setting characters. Like its about a group of incarcerated kids, of different races (including at least one with a mental illness, one illiterate kid, and a lot of them don't have the best level of education) and shows how the system treats them like they're worthless when they've got a ton of worth and are intensely good people. The message isnt specifically feminist but you cant say it doesnt challenge any prejudice.

I didn’t say it doesn’t challenge any prejudice, that was a question specifically about how race was handled in a particular scene. A scene, not the whole movie.

I can address that scene in particular, and I can say it wasn’t particularly challenging to modern prejudices… and I did!

While I also don’t have an issue with talking about this other stuff, since it’s worth mentioning, I don’t think it’s really… realistic to expect me to talk about the entire movie if someone has a question about just one scene that, in itself, took me several paragraphs to reply to.

What exactly is radical feminism? I read a bunch of radical feminists' blogs to get a thorough idea of their beliefs. Almost all the radical feminists I read about are against *trans people, but aren't feminists supposed to support *trans people? Something else I noticed is that many of them are against wearing make up and high heels. Isn't controlling what women should wear contradicting feminism though? I hope I don't sound ignorant. I am simply stating what I observed and read.

I mean, I’m not the person to really ask because I’m not a radical feminist. To be fair to them, asking me what their stance is about - when I’m not really a part of the movement - is kind of like going to your average person and asking what “feminism” is. You’re not going to get the full answer.

It’s been a while since I answered a bunch of asks but as usual, “Has this been asked before?” is usually handy, and I’ve answered this to the best of my knowledge before, based on what I’ve observed myself.

So that’s really it as far as I can say. I would look for rad-fem blogs (some might still be active if you go to my above posts/reblogs). A lot of them are anti-trans which would be one of my big reasons for not getting on board (and before anyone is immediately like “but I’m rad and not that way,” again, “has this been asked before?”). 

Although, again, my perspective is limited, I don’t think it’s so much about controlling women as it is about acknowledging that our choices are sometimes influenced by the culture we grew up in (that demands a certain type of personal presentation etc), and not just upholding all “choices” as equally “pro-women” just because they are simply choices. And I think there is a lot of truth in that examination and it’s not something that boils down simply to “don’t wear high heels” etc. 

feministhalloween:

The Sanderson Sisters, via purgatoriedtorsos.tumblr.com. 

I just stumbled across this blog literally by looking through “feminist halloween” tag to see what was there… what a gem!

feministhalloween:

The Sanderson Sisters, via purgatoriedtorsos.tumblr.com

I just stumbled across this blog literally by looking through “feminist halloween” tag to see what was there… what a gem!

feministdisney:

Pocahontas successfully nipped Meeko’s hipsterish tendencies in the bud

feministdisney:

Pocahontas successfully nipped Meeko’s hipsterish tendencies in the bud

Okay, so I recently rewatched Holes the movie, and I relised something. The development of the romance between Kate Barlow (Kissing Kate Barlow) and Sam (The onion seller), may be the the first examples of Disney doing romanticle relationship development well and with an interracial relationship as well. Thoughts upon my reading of the text?

I don’t think it’s… a bad example? (for anyone: here is a clip of the movie that gets at least the gist of their relationship) But it isn’t admittedly what would first spring to mind for either of these things. I mean, don’t get me wrong, it’s a cute story and there’s nothing… wrong with it? 

I mean, I’m not sure how it’s a great example of Disney handling a romantic relationship because it’s just so brief. I agree there’s no like, blatant sexism or anything, but their relationship is a brief, cute summary that flies by in 5 minutes — there’s no real nuance that captures the essence of the complexity of a relationship, or honestly, the development of a relationship. That’s not to say it isn’t done well- they’re minor background characters and it’s well done for that level. But it’s not what I would point to if I’m just looking for an example of relationship development. It’s more romantic tale than reality.

(mild plot spoilers) As far as the interracial aspect goes, I wouldn’t say it was done “bad” but I wouldn’t say it jumped out at me as an amazing example either. For the most part, this film doesn’t challenge anyone’s beliefs about race. Even if you entered the film having a prejudice against a white woman with a black man, he’s shown to be gentle first - and then we’re introduced to the white man who wants to win her over who makes a rather flat joke about owning the pond. We’re pretty much influenced to not like him because he’s pompous and icky. Sam is killed, and Kate gets her revenge for his death.

Again, not really challenging anything- America thinks that it is postracial and killing the bad guy who kills a guy because he was in love with a white woman and black and living in the 1800s fits pretty comfortably with how people see the world. Yet when we get to 2014 it’s not so easily good/bad. Suddenly the lover is a thug because he wore a hoodie, a thief because why not, and assaulting someone because why else would the good ol’ police shoot and kill? Oops did that get too much into reality… well! Like literally if that happened today, his death wouldn’t get vindicated — the Associated Press would probably report he was trying to steal the boat and looked like he was holding a weapon while doing it. And even in the movie version of racial tensions, it’s the white woman who becomes the “savior” of the situation.

Not to ruin your love of this scene though, or anything. Even if it’s not challenging anyone it’s not bad or anything, I just wish there was more media that really shifted perceptions rather than just giving us a pat on the back for hating the obviously bad guy. We’ve had a heck of a lot of that for a long time and it doesn’t really do much. 

I was asked to help spread the word. Seems like a worthy cause. 

Hey, in elementary school I dressed up as a Native American for Halloween, but I was also genuinely interested in the culture and read up on it all the time, and tried learning Navajo, and wanted to be a historian that focused on indigenous cultures. Is that still disrespectful? I'm really sorry if it is, but I kinda wanna know cuz I did that while trying to be respectful but I also didn't understand racism or imperialism so it could've actually been awful.

I would say yes, it was disrespectful (if not as bad as others, if that’s what you wanted to hear). Again, I just inundated my front page with a bunch of links where you can find more info about this, not going to keep re-posting the same info. It’s great that people want to learn more but you have to take a bit of basic initiative when these answers are definitely out there and there are answers by actual native people (mycultureisnotatrend is an example, and she covered this topic in many different ways in her archive). 

I think it’s also important to see this as a people issue, not a “me” issue. Like: I would say 90% of the commentary about this isn’t actually about native people, it’s really about "was I wrong? Am I wrong? I don’t want to feel bad, but let me know if I should feel bad."

My family had a few pink and white “warbonnets” in our halloween costume chest when I was little. My grade school gave us “feathers” for our “Indian hat” when we learned basic tasks like tying our shoes. I am not magically removed from what is pretty much your basic way a white suburban kid was raised in the 1990s, and I was not some culturally aware savant in kindergarten or something.

I’m not going to go back in time and kick my 5-year-old self for that. That’s in the past, and respecting and supporting native people/cultures/etc. isn’t about turning the focus onto ourselves, it’s not about absolving or justifying past guilt or complicity which cannot be erased just because we want to erase it and it makes us uncomfortable now, it’s about re-examining what we’ve come to see as a “norm” in terms of how people and their history and their present are portrayed, and looking for ways to end the cycle

tastefullyoffensive:

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obsessedbutterfly:

feministdisney:

for more on native appropriation:  http://mycultureisnotatrend.tumblr.com/

So I was thinking about this and felt bad because I dressed up as a Native American in elementary school. But then I was thinking about it more and it is really that different from dressing up as a nurse, cowboy, boy scout, white trash etc? Or I have had friends that dressed up as different continents. The idea is dress up as someone else and if a native American is different from your identity is that really so wrong? Just because we dress up that way does not mean I don’t believe they are a living breathing, diverse culture”. 
I don’t know, I see both sides. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.

there was a tag that said to google this issue before you say something silly :(
Or like literally just, click the link. It’s right there. There were all of five words, and one of them was clickable and an answer to questions like this.
No, it’s not like “dressing up as a nurse.” If you look up the “Has this been asked before?” tab on my blog, this has been addressed multiple times, to the point where dressing up as a cowboy like you mentioned is literally in this one. Here’s another quick fact worth reading before you get into your sexy native costume (or tacitly condone someone else doing so, as you did). Here’s another!
you went and said a silly…

obsessedbutterfly:

feministdisney:

for more on native appropriation:  http://mycultureisnotatrend.tumblr.com/

So I was thinking about this and felt bad because I dressed up as a Native American in elementary school. But then I was thinking about it more and it is really that different from dressing up as a nurse, cowboy, boy scout, white trash etc? Or I have had friends that dressed up as different continents. The idea is dress up as someone else and if a native American is different from your identity is that really so wrong? Just because we dress up that way does not mean I don’t believe they are a living breathing, diverse culture”. 

I don’t know, I see both sides. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.

there was a tag that said to google this issue before you say something silly :(

Or like literally just, click the link. It’s right there. There were all of five words, and one of them was clickable and an answer to questions like this.

No, it’s not like “dressing up as a nurse.” If you look up the “Has this been asked before?” tab on my blog, this has been addressed multiple times, to the point where dressing up as a cowboy like you mentioned is literally in this one. Here’s another quick fact worth reading before you get into your sexy native costume (or tacitly condone someone else doing so, as you did). Here’s another!

you went and said a silly…