If you're still doing the advice thing, I'd really appreciate some from someone who would understand this stuff. In May I was diagnosed with GAD and major recurring depression. There have been a lot of supportive people in my life, but it kills me how callous my dad is about it. He refuses to believe I have a problem, demands I not even think about taking medication, and when he caused me to have a major panic attack (I couldn't breathe) he told me I was being overdramatic. (pt 1)
(pt 2) It’s painful, and even more-so that whenever I talk to him about political things (such as how our society treats people with mental illnesses) he just tells me I’ve been indoctrinated. I don’t know how to deal with this emotions or try to explain to him just how serious this is and how much it hurts and upsets me. If you have any advice, Disney themed or not, I would appreciate it so much.
I am so sorry I left some of these off for so long… I have no real excuse, just that I haven’t been on the internet as much, period. :(
Realizing that certain things might never change can be very painful. I would say in some ways that it reminds me of The Lion King, and Simba’s interactions with his own father (and Scar, depending on which part of your question we address)
Family relationships are often (always?) complicated, and it can be especially heartbreaking when the people we expect to be most reliant on can’t be there for us — for one reason or another.
I think everyone has to process things in their own way, so I’m not sure whether it would help to talk to him or not. I think sometimes for your own sake, it helps to talk — Simba didn’t really get resolution over his feelings of guilt until he actually started talking about it. That said, there’s not actually anything cowardly in keeping yourself safe for a while and kind of, dealing with your depression first, and putting your dad to the side for a while? Simba left his issues for a few years — you can at least take a few weeks to put yourself first.
Timon: Look, kid. Bad things happen, and you can’t do anything about it. Right?
Young Simba: Right.
Timon: Wrong! When the world turns its back on you, you turn your back on the world.
And if you can, look for other supporters who understand you at this very moment in time — not their expectations of you or past ideas of you but just, you (Simba found Timon and Pumba). Your dad may or may not come around but there are other people out there who can and will absolutely understand what you’re going through and not make you feel bad about it.
As far as actually talking to your dad, human relationships (or… lion relationships?) are so complex that I don’t know what the “right” solution could be for your exact situation. Personally, I think letters can be useful. A lot of people get automatically defensive if you’re speaking to them but a letter is kind of like… they have to read it through before issuing any sort of “rebuttal” and it can help you, too, to have time to kind of compose your thoughts and place them in the order you see fit — and if they don’t react in the way you hope, you don’t have to be physically there for it.
Hope this helps?? Feel free to reblog with better advice, peeps!