Melissa Behnken, of San Diego, says her first family trip since her husband’s return from a deployment was ruined when an elderly Disneyland park attendant told her to pull up her top, saying it was inappropriate.
Pretty ridiculous. I’ll mostly just say check out the links (the above or a somewhat shorter version on Opposing Views) and the excerpts from both I’ll drop into here, and put my thoughts at the end.
‘This gentleman out of nowhere comes up to me and just says,”’You need to pull your top up,”’ she told 10News. ‘I was looking at him like, “Excuse me? Are you serious?”’
This is a family park. You are showing too much,” the employee allegedly said.
"I guess women with large chests are expected to wear turtlenecks their whole lives,” said Behnken to 10News.
Behnken says her husband had just returned home from deployment and they had been excited to take their three children to the resort for their first family vacation. After the incident, however, Behnken says the rest of the trip was ruined.
Now, the California mom has filed a formal complaint with the park as well as one with the Disney corporation. She says that in the week since the incident happened, Disney has reached out to offer an apology on behalf of the employee, but Behnken says she hopes they take it a step further.
“Maybe they need to do more exclusive training on what is OK to say to people that come there,” suggested Behnken.
Disneyland reportedly has a policy deeming clothing that “exposes excessive portions of the skin” as inappropriate for the family-friendly park, but Behnken’s apparel barely showed any cleavage at all, as evident in the family’s pictures taken at the park prior to the incident.
- Unless people are actually running around naked, it seems like this rule invariably comes down to the judgment of employees, which can be biased. Even if her top had been cut lower? If you don’t want people wearing “skin revealing” outfits, stop placing your theme parks in 90 degree weather. Otherwise, there’s a bit of a correlation. I should know — I’ve fainted just standing in line for Universal.
- Definitely a case where the bodies of women with larger boobs are inherently seen as sexual no matter to what degree they cover up, because large boobs will inherently not look the same as small boobs in the same shirt. Short of wearing a turtle neck, they will often “peek out”
- A ridiculous thing to say to a family — that their mother is not family-friendly
- This is not the first time and unlikely to be the last time that it is clear that, even though the majority of employees are respectful and great, many lack clear guidance on issues like this
- Thanks to this JMU Women’s Student Caucus blog for the original point out