autumn-and-eve:

hoobastankonia:

autumn-and-eve:

whoorderedpizza submitted:

http://whoorderedpizza.tumblr.com/post/25538166892/youre-kidding

I am trans (and apparently I should be toned down and not upset)

“Allow people to make mistakes”
When you are in an influential position of being an educator (a self-proclaimed educator, no less), you shouldn’t be making “mistakes” like that. And in this particular circumstance, a tough mistake to even make in the first place, that trans people exist at all. You need to do your own damn research and not expect to have trans people politely pull you aside and educate you every time you do it. I get the feeling that the same cis women continue to make the same “mistakes” because they want to try to monopolize misogyny as being solely directed towards them - always white, this is what feminism has always been.

hey yall, to the best of my understanding laci green is a really outspoken trans* ally and has been pretty open and educational about the matter. i don’t know what the issue was in the first place, and i’m not trying to censor or anything, but i’m willing to guess it was a genuine, honest mistake.

people say and do stupid shit as they learn, and continued learning is a huge part of being an educator.

that being said, “stop being angry at me” isn’t really the message you want to convey for 70% of your apology.

Nope

This is why I often feel conflicted about Laci Green.  I think as a sort of gateway person she’s useful (in that she brings into a lot of movements people who otherwise wouldn’t be aware of them, because she has popular youtube videos et cetera.   A lot of it may seem redundant to people who have been around this type of discussion for a while but really in a lot of cases it’s not for you if you’ve been around it for a while.   Beginners need a place to start).  

But sometimes I feel like she really doesn’t… get… the point of tumblr and safe spaces and stuff like that.  Like yeah, sometimes the “social justice league” on tumblr gets out of hand.   But this really wasn’t one of those cases- it was a fair reply to a pretty big mistake on a blog that, as someone already pointed out, shouldn’t be making such a mistake.  And yeah sometimes mistakes happen anyway but it seems condescending to start your message with “Whoa Tiger” when you know someone is pissed off at a mistake you made- it’s the type of thing we say to 9 year olds when they need to lay off the sugar.   It twists things around to make everyone else seem like they’re overreacting and irrational when you’re supposed to be the ally who, in this situation, fucked up.   Not them.

And there’s also the implication at the end that if we don’t treat her and other people who say similar big mistakes with kid gloves and make sure that all our responses to them are polite and laced with sweetness and if we have the audacity to sarcastically say “great job” at the end, then “things will never change in society”

yeaaah okay then