I guess I’m on the fence. I get what you’re saying. I’m glad so many people are supportive of it, but yeah, I think for some people it might be an… extension of the portrayals they’re most comfortable with viewing, so those are the portrayals they push for the most/are the “best” at being allies about in terms of support.
IDK though because I can’t think of any specific commentary that has really been fetishizing, off the top of my head, and I don’t want to just broadly assume everyone supports for the worst reasons. I think a lot of straight girls just legitimately want to support and help and I think most girls tend to identify more with princesses and lesbians than with princes and gay guys, so it’s what they end up pushing for. I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing