It doesn’t matter if you’re aware that it’s offensive when you use it… I’m sure most people using the word don’t use it with the intent to oppress. But language can reinforce oppressive environments all the same.
And that word IS a slur even if it’s not always used in that way. It’s NOT okay in the US just because it isn’t often used to be like, “Ew, you’re such an X!” Instead, it’s, “I’m such an X because I travel and am magical.” Roma people and other similar groups have a right to use the word because it has been used against them- it is not anyone else’s word to make stereotypical associations with. Which is invariably how it is used in the US. Which reinforces an otherization of that cultural group. It’s not a positive use of the word.
And to anyone who thinks Cher’s (who is half Armenian, not Roma, they’re not synonymous unless she announced she was Roma and I missed it) song is okay because it’s about “what people call them”- no? Like that’s as weird/wrong as saying it’s okay for me to make thousands of dollars off a song where I sing about what it’s like to be a black girl, relying on basically romanticized stereotypes I’ve heard? It’s not the worst song ever and it was made ages ago but there’s no point in falling over ourselves trying to excuse it
And that took up most of this ask but yes, if something encourages the gender binary it is usually harmful to all children. And I think the way the line is… marketed? Tends to encourage an outdated concept of what princesses/girls want to take place, like, it’s about wanting pampering and being coddled by others etc. Also, “has this been asked before” if you didn’t try yet. ;)
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- valleyofmelatonia said: she doesn’t use it as a way to call herself one. She uses it saying that they were called that (not in a good way). Somebody needs to listen to the lyrics really.
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- geekdynasty said: I’ve never really understood the whole “I’m one of them so it’s okay” argument. It’s the same as African-Americans dropping n-bombs at one another. It’s either offensive and derogatory or it isn’t. Using it amongst the group is internalization. Bad.
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